Listening

When we tried to define listening, i made a definition in class. I said that if we talked with someone, we give messages and information in our sentences, in our gestures and body language. All of these are about our needs and so when we are listening our partner try to give us messages too which is about receiving needs. This was my explanation.

Listening is about quality and quantity of receiving of messages. Listening can build trust and respect between partners because you think that you are paid attention to. This is important for all of us.

We watched a video too:

This was funny.

Ok, what can we do to be a good listener?

- Eye contact
- Don't interrupt
- Pay attention
- Paraphrase understanding

 I posted another video about listening and i posted something about "Why Am I Talking?"

So, silence can be uncomfortable but we have to remember that how important good listening is. We should allow someone to rally ideas when he or she talking because with this strategy we can take messages more clearly and we can understand each other better. In addition to all of these, we know that, listening changes what happens next.

Another key part of being good listener is related in disturbing and intention. Anything (cell phones, laptops, etc...) can disturb you. We do not have anything around us disturbing. To add: check perceptipons and needs.

And remember:

DO NOT LİSTEN!
DO NOT TRUST!

For powerful listening, there are some points we discussed. These are:

1. Waiting
2. Getting the speaker to say more
3. Responding
4. Be emphatic and non-judgmental